What is Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy?
What is EFT?
Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) helps partners understand and repair the emotional patterns that shape their relationship. Rather than focusing only on communication skills, EFT gently explores the deeper emotions and needs that live beneath conflict.
It’s about learning to recognize your dance together—how one partner’s withdrawal or pursuit can trigger the other’s fears—and how to step into a new rhythm built on safety and trust.
EFT helps couples rebuild the emotional bond that makes love feel safe. It’s not about fixing each other—it’s about finding each other again.
How does it work?
EFT unfolds in three broad stages:
Identify the pattern – Together, we notice the recurring cycle that causes disconnection.
Access deeper emotions – You learn to express what’s really happening underneath (hurt, fear, longing) instead of reacting defensively.
Rebuild connection – As understanding grows, couples begin to respond to each other with empathy and care, restoring closeness and security.
What can EFT help with?
Repeated conflicts that never seem to resolve
Emotional distance or loss of closeness
Recovery from betrayal or breaches of trust
Strengthening intimacy and teamwork
What does it feels like?
Sessions are collaborative and supportive. You’ll be guided to slow things down, share what’s real for you, and listen in new ways. Over time, conversations shift from blame to understanding—and connection begins to feel possible again.
Curious if couples therapy might help you?
Book your free 15-minute consultation or email info@erinsaccomano.ca today.
At Erin Saccomano Psychotherapy, we look at the whole person—mind, body, and relationship. When couples find themselves stuck in the same painful loops—misunderstandings, distance, or recurring arguments—it’s often not about who’s right or wrong. It’s about disconnection and the longing to feel safe and close again.